QUALITY TIME // This is definitely a big deal to me. It’s not just being in the same room with each other, or the same place at the same time. It’s making memories together and interacting with each other. It’s laughing together and playing together. It’s talking to each other and truly listening to what each other is saying. This can easily be forgotten about with our busy lives: trying to get to basketball practices, basketball games, work, birthday parties, school, play dates, errands .. it seems never ending. I want Cody to learn that no matter how busy our lives get it is important to always make time for each other.
In the beginning of mine and Jeff’s relationship, things weren’t perfect. He walked into Cody and I’s life so unexpectedly. He welcomed Cody into his life like he was his own, which definitely opened my eyes to starting a relationship with someone so young. Although, I don’t think he knew what he was getting himself into. LOL We fell in LOVE so fast but there were many bumps in the road that came along the first year. There was definitely a lot of adjusting and getting used to. And just when I thought we overcame the crazy first year, so many other things got thrown at us and our relationship. Lets just say we weren’t on the same page about a lot of things. Our PRIORITIES, finances, goals, our future .. pretty much EVERYTHING. This last year our relationship was definitely put to the test. There was a lot of mistakes that were made, a lot of things that shouldn’t have been said, and then there was me so ANGRY about everything which I felt the need to punish him for. In my head I just wanted to hurt him as much as he’s hurt me. Obviously not a good idea on my part.
Almost 4 years later and I think we are finally on the same page about MOST things. I think we have finally started working together. I think we are finally on the same team. A few things i’ve realized is that when you love someone and you choose to be with someone, in order to make things work you have to put in the effort (both of you). I’ve learned that you have to let certain things go and you definitely have to pick your battles. One thing we’ve agreed on is spending more QUALITY TIME together. That means quality time with just us 2 and quality time as a family with Cody.
With Jeff’s busy work schedule as a real estate agent, he can pretty much be working 7 days a week and at all times of the day, which obviously can be super hard on spending that quality time I was talking about. So somehow, I came up with our weekend coffee dates ( because DUH? if you know me then you know how obsessed I am with coffee), that has become a ritual for the last few months. I love the idea of having our coffee dates to look forward to on the weekends. Cody’s with his dad every other weekend, so sometimes we get to go with just us 2, which is nice. There are times when we have to rush because one of us has work or somewhere to be and then there are times when we get to sit and enjoy just hanging out. I love the idea of our weekend coffee dates because even if its 30 minutes or an hour it gives us time together to look forward to.
We aren’t even close to perfect and I’m pretty sure there will be a lot more things thrown at us. But for now the love we have for each other and the appreciation we have for each other, is what will keep us together for a LONG LONG TIME!
Our weekend was another busy one, but definitely full of fun. I can’t believe it’s Monday already. I’m hoping this week goes by super fast because I am totally looking forward to our coffee date this weekend, AND because after this week is over, it’ll be Cody’s spring break! WOOHOO!
Location: Blue Bottle Coffee
Favorite things to get: Cold brew coffee, Almond milk latte, & Waffle
Cody’s favorites: Hot chocolate, lemonade, & chocolate brioche muffin
Why we love it: Not only is it pretty locale to us, but we love the vibes inside, we love the ever changing street art on the sidewalk and we love how friendly the staff is